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Jul 15, 2012, 09:39 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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You know what my dear -- you are BEAUTIFUL just as you are!!!  Who said that a woman has to be rail thin to be gorgeous??? Who made that a law? Who said that beauty was defined as "thin, slim, bony, about 105lbs, etc?" I don't see that in the dictionary. I'm a female, and to me, beautiful women come in ALL sizes, all shapes, and all colors. I certainly do NOT feel intimidated by any tall, skinny pretty woman who weighs only 95 lbs, and is a model. Bull. I'd rather see a 5'4" woman who weight 150lbs and wears a size 16! You get my drift. I'm only 5'2" the last time I was measured (I keep shrinking due to spinal troubles  ) and I'm a bit overweight but I don't give a darn. Take me as I am, or go to H#$$. LOL
You know, sometimes we have to detach from our family because they are TOXIC. And it sounds to me like YOUR family is very toxic to YOU. When family, whether they are having mental problems or not, keep making statements that are extremely hurtful to us, it's time to move away from them --- to stop having frequent contact with them. You CANNOT continually put yourself thru that and expect to feel good about yourself!
So "wean" yourself away from the family -- you don't have to speak to Mom every day. You don't have to talk to Dad either. You're an adult -- why put yourself thru this? They'll get used to not hearing from you as often, and YOU will finally heal from the constant negative comments -- and maybe you'll find your self-esteem that you lost thru years and years of nasty barrages. You are BEAUTIFUL just as you are!!
Maybe some sessions with a therapist will get it into your head that you don't have to listen to those negative tapes that were bored into your brain -- you can ERASE those tapes, and play some new ones that say you are BEAUTIFUL! Make an appointment! God bless you and take care. BIG HUGS!!! Lee
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