thanks, rose. re a coworker, I meant to look at the situation as what would you do if you developed strong feelings for a coworker. I think infidelity is ALWAYS a possible topic of discussion for a couple, unless they bring back chastity belts. so why would the issue even come up for snuffle now, unless her eye were wandering anyway? she could move on to the next T and have the same issue again, cos let's face it, our poor T's are like Mr Potato Head, completely interchangeable. Hmmm - I bet she's glad now that she asked for help... the point was tho, that snuffle is irresistible, not her T, so changing T's wouldn't help anyway

re my other examples - I am probably the worst person to talk about r/s. my father once told me that he was never sure if my mother loved him, but that was okay, because it made it more exciting. I was over 35 when I heard this. so probably about the worst role models ever.