Good points, Hank. And i hear you MKAC...Thanks.

I guess infidelity isn't an issue for me in my relationships. It is a non- negotiable, so if my S/O slipped or made a mis- step in this area...trust is broken. Relationship over. We are all human and make mistakes but this type of thing for me is a non-negotiable and not up for further discussion. Time for everyone to move on.
Hey! I think this got off topic. Sorry!

And MKAC that wasnt my takeaway from this particular post. I read it a few times...what stuck out for me is the detail in which the T validated...pretty specific stuff. Although i wasnt there so i dont know exactly what the poster said exactly...

I should think a solid validation of mutual attraction and then a quick turnaround back to the client and their needs, wishes, desires and feelings would have been the more responsible, professional thing to do. Then T could go into the fantasies and wishlist with their own T.

Hugs, Rose