For me it is an easy question, I have so much more respect for myself now and realised that I am not the bad person I thought I was.
I have personal boundaries in place now and will never let myself get into an unhealthy relationship again.
It took me a whole year to admit that I was in an unhealthy relationship...poor T was relentless and we spent hours goign over healthy and unhealthy and at one stage when I said I was getting back with my ex she refused to treat me and said it was unethical as I was just going around in circles. Now of course I see that she was right even though it hurt.
I feel now I am able to cope better with the overwhelming emotions better and as my last session with t is coming up next week I have wrote a long detailed letter for her as to how she helped me and how we didnt always see eye to eye but everything she did was for the greater good