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Originally Posted by farmergirl
You keep calling him a narcissist. Why? Doesn't sound that way at all. So he has a girlfriend. Yes, he might should have clarified that to you, but the fact that he doesn't feel meeting his girlfriend would be this intense for you doesn't make him a narcissist. Maybe not understanding of your thinking at this point, but that can be talked through in session. It is good that you are communicating your hurt and anger to him; now, slow down, sit down with him, and talk it through.
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Because I had extreme transference and was under the illusion that I was in love with him for a year and a half and he knew this. As my therapist, he should have had the sensitivity to know coming into his home and meeting his partner would be a challenge. Instead, he thought that I would be dying to meet his lover. Then he couldn't admit that he f'ed up and put it all on me. He never apologized. I call that narcissistic behavior. There have been lots of other things that I've observed over our time together that lead me to think this way. He still is very invested in his resume. He calls himself a Harvard-trained psychiatrist, but he actually didn't attend Harvard MS, he did a fellowship at one of their programs. He had a sexual transgression years ago with a female client and lost his medical license, but sweeps it under the rug. I simply don't trust him anymore, and I have learned in my 54 years that if I don't listen to my intuition, it won't be good.