Thanks for your message...I lean towards thinking he may be narcissistic too...it is just very confusing, in that he is very shy and awkward in any emotionally intimate situation...in fact very shy generally in social situations, only with teenagers is he more outgoing, as if he feels more of a man in their company.. but then he has a pretty delusionary view of himself...thinks of himself as a 'latin lover' even though I am told he has no previous experience with women...all his friends who grew up with him laugh about it, but go along with it...nobody has ever confronted him...when I try to kindly suggest we talk or do things differntly, he either sulks, gives the silent treatment or else he will force me onto the defensive and then when he knows he has me pretty much on my knees asking him to discuss rather than state what he always says are 'the facts', he just ups and leaves with a cruel little smile on his face...If you met him you would see a very very shy, nervy person...tho interestingly one friend met him and said 'he thinks way too much of himself'...the thought of getting therapy together is just as likely as moving to the moon together...he is never ever wrong..and if I dare to suggest for instance that it makes me insecure when he ignores me in the street...well I blew it...'sorry, but how can we continue when you just won't understand me, your behaviour has brought us to this...' ecc... then i feel like i am the crazy one..he half convinces me that his behaviour is normal, because he truly believes it is... anyway, many thanks