I have lost all respect for Yalom. What a sicko. And he proudly reports that he took on this patient, not because he wanted to help her but because he wanted to help himself. Further, he has no shame about his reaction! Would he publish a chapter about how he was repulsed by a war veteran who had lost a leg? Would he go into detail about what he didn't like about working with a Black man? Fat people are a group that it is still okay to hate.

I feel for your situation. I have never had a male T, but I often worry that my very fit and petite marathon runner female T judges my appearance. If she tells me about the wonders of exercise one more time, I may freak out.

That said, I like to believe that most T's are not a-holes like Yalom and do see beyond the superficial. I think my feelings about my t judging me has a lot more to do with my issues than with reality. Perhaps I'm an optimist, but I think that eventually I will be able to work through it.

Best,
EJ