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Originally Posted by mswinter
The rational part of my brain knows that they way I look should not matter to my T, regardless of his sexual orientation. The rational part of my brain tells me that my T is there to help me through difficult times and to help me as I embark on a journey of self-discovery, which includes exploring why I use food to medicate painful feelings... in fact, why I eat my feelings.
The emotional part of my brain does not believe any of the above. The emotional part of my brian believes that my T is like most people and therefore he would much rather spend 45 minutes with an attractive woman in his office; he would rather not have to spend time with someone who is overweight and he probably does not like to look at me.
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mswinter, I admire your courage for posting this thread. I think many here may have similar thoughts or feelings although few are able to articulate them in the way you did.
I have read Yalom's book "The Love Executioner" and really despised him in this part of the book. I remember, I kept thinking...."What an ***!". I read his comments as being VERY prejudiced and also questioned, like others, if he was doing her more harm by staying on as her T. ( He was much more specific in the book than the excerpts here)
If I remember correctly, he had grown up in an overweight family and Betty reminded him of his own Mom. In the end, Betty (client) tells him she KNEW of his countertransference toward her. He was surprised to find out she had known since very early on in her therapy.
In the end, she gave him some unmerited grace.
Is it possible to take what you posted in your thread and read it to your T? This might just lead to some great work between the two of you!