This is really bad - we're back to the same old thing. I can't believe this. We just wasted the last 45 minutes arguing about the fact that he has slipped back into his old bad habit of withdrawing and apathy. He said it tonight ... the dreaded words... "what's the point in trying? nothing ever matters".

I really feel like I'm going to have a heart attack. I can't go through this again. Night after night coming home to this. I don't know what to do. I can't make him try and I can't make him leave the house and I can't even get him off the couch. I feel unwanted and unwelcome and completely uncomfortable in my own house. YES, it's fine with me if he moves out but how do I MAKE him do that when he can't even make himself get up to answer the phone? How do I change this???????????