I've been doing that all day and I took some advice from a wise person on this forum.
First is try to Relax
Second is that guilt is not a helpful emotion because it triggers and is a neverending cycle this is from my T
Third is tell a good close friend and halve the burden what it is this also from another wise person on this forum
Today I told my best friend who has known me since I was 12 and I thought she would reject or hate me or think that I was cuckoo and you know what she didn't do that at all. She was surprisingly insightful and even recognised my changes and she said to me that they are there for a reason to protect you not harm you... and I realised that my core self is not assertive and thats when I become an emotional manipulator and that I need to find a way to stop myself from over stepping others boundaries. Because thats when I find I become overwhelmed and sink
Fourth "You is beautiful, You is Kind and You is GOOD" thats from my T and I have made it my mantra when I feel guilt or horrible. Its from the movie called "The Help" I haven't watched it yet but thats where T got it from.
Fifth keep talking to us, as we know how you feel and there are some wonderful people in this forum that I feel are Genuine heart felt beautiful people who will help you. Because they are beautiful, they are kind and they are good.
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