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Originally Posted by YYZadd
"I knew what I was hearing people tell me and the 'drifty eye' was difficult to control cos I am trying sooo hard to focus!! it's bloody nuts! I'm using all my concentration to 'appear' like I'm concentrating ..." -- Very interesting
I feel like I fake my expressions, except for the easy ones like "Happy", so when things are rough and people need my help/understanding is a crisis I'm so focused on the problem that the energy spent on faking my expressions is immediately put "On Hold" and many times people think I'm uncaring or a jerk.
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..yep, I wonder?...it occurred to me that sounds a bit like not being in "synch"
unsynchronised with the world around us and unless we can be deeply assertive that we have our own unique understanding and that we are likely to be outnumbered anyway...then it's so easy to become insecure and let people punish us it's unfair.
we feel the need to fit in with others yet others don't appear to need to fit in with us...those that love us will try and succeed and the rest can think what they like I reckon...
most adhd/add people I know are gentle and have a quiet way about them not overbearing at all but can retaliate when necessary with highly calculated and intuitive responses when stressed.
I sincerely doubt you are uncaring or a jerk YYZ