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Originally Posted by Eliza Jane
I have lost all respect for Yalom. What a sicko. And he proudly reports that he took on this patient, not because he wanted to help her but because he wanted to help himself. Further, he has no shame about his reaction! Would he publish a chapter about how he was repulsed by a war veteran who had lost a leg? Would he go into detail about what he didn't like about working with a Black man? Fat people are a group that it is still okay to hate.
I feel for your situation. I have never had a male T, but I often worry that my very fit and petite marathon runner female T judges my appearance. If she tells me about the wonders of exercise one more time, I may freak out.
That said, I like to believe that most T's are not a-holes like Yalom and do see beyond the superficial. I think my feelings about my t judging me has a lot more to do with my issues than with reality. Perhaps I'm an optimist, but I think that eventually I will be able to work through it.
Best,
EJ
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This is what really pisses me off.
It's in the movies, books, TV and even politics. Children are taught that it's ok to make fun of ppl who are overweight, that they deserve it and it's even implied that by making fun of them you're actually helping them to loose that weight...I used to be fat when I was a teenager and believe me when I tell you it makes it much worse. Now my weigh is somewhat ok- in a normal range but I still sometimes long for the days when I was severely underweight. Cause it is programmed in my brain that if I got thinner ppl would love me more. We're working on this issues in my therapy- I have a male T.
I've read Yalom's story and it's been discussed here before but man I hated it. However, TBH I thought Yalom wasn't a good T even before this one. The way he sexualize ALL the women clients, that really pissed me off. Chauvinist pig. Makes me appreciate my T even more.
