(((Twofaces, Illegal Toilet and RockBiplarRoll)))

I wont write down mine- I have already in other sections, it is painful and I am just too emotionally spent today.

You may not need to tell them how you feel; however you do need to love yourselves for who you are and heal from the pain in some way of what they have caused by their actions and words... A therapist or deep readings with help of self esteem could help with that-- I am still a working progress on some things.

One thing that my ex-t told me to do was "write a letter to my mom and dad, about the things that I gained from them individually- then write what I, myself needed from them as far as parenting"... It is an exercise that you keep for yourself. My mother for me was very hard--- but I was able to accomplish it.

Many hugs to all that are in this boat.