granite, I finished the book finally last night. Please keep in mind that the author even said the book was written about the distant mother, not the horrible, toxic mothers like you and I had. So, not all of the book will apply to people like you and me. I found parts of the book helpful and parts very difficult to read.

And for what it's worth, I didn't discuss the book with my T either, despite thinking that I would talk to him about it.