you're not incompetent. Just stressed, sad and preoccupied. My x stole from me, about 2k if I remember correctly... meth addict. So I know how you must be feeling about the theft don't beat yourself up, WHO could be 'cool' after being decieved? I doubt even a saint could. Your feelings are valid, your reaction, by the sound of it, was natural. And you're right, don't jump the gun, you may very well just be sad. Bipolar doesn't mean automatic extreme emotion. We're allowed to have unipolar scale feelings too... Please look after yourself BI