My boyfriend and I are not on the same wavelength, he is not there for me emotionally. I am a very emotion-oriented person, always helping everyone in my support group, thinking empathetically, being there for others. When I share how I have helped others, he does not respond at all. When I cry, he does not comfort me. He talks about surface matters, never discussing things that really matter.

We were just fighting. Some people say I am staying in the relationship because I am 39 and when I met him 2 years ago, I had been alone my entire life- no boyfriends- causing extreme lonliness, lack of growth, isolation, since my family is not there for me, either. What a relief to finally find someone.....well, like I said, we are not on the same wavelength, though...he does not help me financially, even though he lives with me.

I think I have him as a distraction, for what I really feel, and who I am. I met someone Saturday night who seems he would be better for me. He says, I need to end my present relationship, before I will be truly open to beginning with the right person...

But every time I end it, I get so extremely lonely, it's scary. I end up going back to him out of feeling blank and lonely.

Thoughts?