((((((((((((((( LMo )))))))))))))))

I don't know you that well, and tell me where to stick it if you like , but-

How about printing off that last post you wrote and showing your husband how YOU feel. He may then have more understanding of your fears and how badly you were treated in the past. This may then get the ball rolling and then he might tell you how he feels.

Another suggestion- How about getting some individual therapy, just for you to help with your self-esteem, and to work through your own past trauma.

Help with coping with the anxiety- You do the relaxation and meditation.

Other ideas-

Slowing the breathing down, put hand on stomach and feel yourself breath deeply in and out for at least 10 mins (feels like for ever!)

You can't sort out big problems if the anxiety has taken hold, so go do something to distract yourself for a while (something you like doing) then you will be able to think clearer.

Take a half-hour hot bath with your favorite bubbles, with the door closed!

Arrange to do something really nice and enjoyable with your husband. A walk in the park where you agree not to discuss problems but spend the time together almost like going out for the first time together.

Hope this helps. take care.