It does help Pegasus - I appreciate it. I would never tell you where to stick it, so please don't feel shy about offering feedback and suggestions. I agree with pretty much everything you said.

Do you think if I showed him what I wrote, that it would induce more guilt? He feels terribly guilty as it is, and while I am very good about sticking up for myself, I don't want to further contribute to his problem.

Wow - that sounds really pathetic of me to consider that. Am rather confused right now.

Will think on this while working in the garden today. Thanks so much, ((( Pegasus )))