((Indie'sOK)) many hugs to you.

All I can say about people being mean, is that some just are- nothing really you or I can do about that but not to take their words so heartily to wound us so.

I am overweight I will not lie, I could gain to lose a few pounds but ya know, one thing that I started when i was around 18 (due to I had and still do have self esteem issues) is tell myself one nice thing about me- usually my eyes, and say, see that is good trait that others like "physically about me". And to my surprise, some do find me cute (that is a shocker to me-- and I will bet to wager that someone else finds you cute or even beautiful )

And why ask questions about what you do- you are curious, you want to be informed, there is nothing wrong with that- Please do not beat yourself up over wanting to find out some answers to some questions as such as "Am I healthy weight or not"... I think that should be the question and NOT if "Am I fat?"- gives a little turn of perception on it a little.

Many hugs to you