Some times humans are self destruction- I agree this is psychological issue-

It can be hard to get out of the habit and pattern of self destruction, it does take help at times and takes will power.

I.e. I smoke about a pack of cigs a day- It is no mystery that cigarettes are really unhealthy, in my case and every smoker out there, we need to stop--- It is more than an addiction though for me as far as physical nature, some days I light up saying- who cares//// The answer should be - I care.

Back on the idea of "Fat"--- that is like asking a hand full of people, Am I sexy? you are going to get mixed reviews for how people preserve what that is. And if you already have a negative thing in your head of what you think you are to others, the negative comments will stand out and stick more than the positive ones. (I do that at least). It comes down to at least for me, to perceive myself a little different, and see another *angles* perhaps and to remind myself- Perhaps I am not that hideous swamp creature that I think I am some days... Also a big thing to remember for me is that I am not in everyone else's head, as well as- As well to remind myself that some of opinions from others, do not matter when it comes down to the nitty gritty -- it is in the end myself's opinion.

And if I already know a negative thing about myself that I want to be better at-- it does come down to "work on it" if I wish for that wish to be true.

I hope some others can help you on this as well- many hugs