I hear what you are saying, Indie. This is terribly difficult for you, and you're doing a brave thing in bringing it up. Maybe it gets even harder because you remember it being easy to be open about things? (This is just me guessing here - I might be completely wrong.)

My uninformed opinion on this is that it's probably the best thing for you to work on this together with your T rather than get a referral to somebody else - but if, in six months' time, or a year, or however long it may be, you still feel that she doesn't get it, then maybe this one thing is something she can't quite help you with, for whatever reason. And then maybe you might reconsider her offer. There's no shame attached to that. But making a honest effort to let her help you, first, sounds like the best plan for you right now.

I haven't seen you complain about this, I've only seen you air an issue that is important to you. Please keep posting.