that is sucky- i would use a different word but it would be bleeped out.

It sounds like there is a lot to this story---
I am a bit confused on the part of you dated but you were happy to finally meet him and marry him- were you having a long distant relationship? (Or have I read that wrong?).

People change in years (especially from 13/14 and 33 years later). It sounds like he really was not what you had expected and that you had something in your mind of which he was (he could had too), and he sounds like he has some issues (weather that be commitment or honesty issues or something else out there). Doing the whole wedding thing, and hour later saying- Nope, don't want to be in this any more, is not really a person that sounds like they wanted to really commit and/or afraid to mention it and sort of mean on top of it- But perhaps that is a misconception

Try best to take this as a learning lesson-- it probably will hurt for a while and with this being so recent-- I am not going to say "don't be angry" -- Go ahead and Be Angry- but don't let that angry corrode you on years on end-- it will need to be let go at some point, or at least dimmed. Perhaps giving a therapist a go at this would help to get past this.

Many hugs to you...