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Originally Posted by emptyspace
Do you see how this is not working? After 2 years, you are still overly attached to your T, maybe more than before.
We have discussed IFS before and I mentioned that the literature suggests that it does not work well with those with borderline traits because they fight moving to the Self, because all their parts want to get their needs met.
You fight moving to the Self all the time.
The reason you think this is working more is because you are getting what you "want" from your T. It is not changing your pattern.
Usually DBT is done with a DBT therapist and a DBT group. A DBT therapist is trained in the methods. The group is used for skills development.
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Thank you for your input, empty.
My T responded at the time that she disagreed that IFS doesn't work wth people with BPD. FYI, she does more EMDR now than IFS. Of course all my parts want to get their needs met. So do everyone's parts! Who said I think ANYTHING is working more? I agree I fight moving to the Self. That's why my T is working with me on mindfulness and meditation, and sent me to yoga, which helps me greatly. I was attached to my former T who refused to hug me because I was "borderline". She didn't help me at all with my attachment problems, and she admitted. She is the one who told me I would probably like the DBT exercises but she didn't think it would help me. I shouldn't have listened to her but she was my T so I did.
Yes, I know that about DBT. I'm going to call the places and see what the cost and rules are. I have all the DBT handouts because I once started an online course but I think they stopped it and I never finished. I know you will say of course I should immediately quit my T and take DBT. It is not advisable to quit a T abruptly. I know because I've done it before. There are many ways my T is helping me, pattern or no pattern.
I don't know why I'm setting myself up for your hostile replies once again. There must be a reason, LOL! I see you don't have any "friends" on the site. I have many. Maybe I feel like you could use some compassion and understanding too. How is YOUR therapy going? If you've been around here enough to know all about me, how come we don't know all about you, or anything about you? Do you get anything out of this forum? I hope so, or why do you stick around attacking me? What do you get out of it? Why do you do it? Something for YOU to bring up in YOUR therapy.