I don't have any advice about good groups, scorpiosis, because I had a similar situation to yours. I found a support group run by supervised grad students at a local university (I was adjuncting and not living where I was finishing my degree) and I did an intake with the leader. I was hoping to find people whom I could relate to--I do have bipolar and BPD, though was on the verge of finishing my PhD--and asked several questions during my evaluation. He assured me that there were others "like you." I went to the first session and I found the same type thing: one person with severe Asperger's who had trouble communicating, another who was recently released from jail for armed robbery and was living with his mom on house arrest and had severe anger issues. It was hard because tried as I might, I simply couldn't find a way to connect to individuals whose issues were so different from mine and who were substantially less far along in their therapy journey. What was perhaps worse was that the group leaders seemed completely clueless as to how to get the group to communicate and moderate. Having been trained in interviewing trauma victims during grad school, I stepped in a few times to ask questions, but then I felt myself in the role of interviewer and I was there to be more 'interviewee.' I left the group. I wrote a letter to the moderator essentially saying that I felt that the group's participants had very diverse issues and were at many different places in their journey. It was hard. I'd love to find a group, but it seems that the good ones are really expensive and not covered by insurance!