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Hey nina, I am a recovering alcoholic. And Leed pretty much hit it on the head. However my last run wasn't my bottom. I did not lose everything in my life when deciding to go to AA. But I would have if I kept going on the way I was.
My husband has been wanting me to stop since we've been together. Granted my drinking stopped being 7 days a week within the last 6 years but it would still occur and I would binge often. He's attempted the nice route with me, threats to end our marriage, and many other things. None of it ever worked because I have a diease that I can not control. I've hurt my husband many times during my use and of course I never intended on doing so. The last time I just had a enough of myself and truly wanted to stop. Again it wasn't my worst run. I just felt different when I came home that morning. And the look of defeat in my husbands eyes really hit me harder than ever. I expected to be screamed at but he was just so lost at that point.
Not sure if your bf has attempted AA yet, but he should. However if he isn't ready, he isn't ready. I tried to go when I was 23 once but told myself I was too young at the time. Any excuse means we just aren't ready to surrender. AA works if you work it. So if he honestly wants to change and stop, maybe he should go to a meeting in your area. And just listen.
I wish you the best. I hope your bf gets the help he needs.
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