Venting is cool and a great way to find out feelings or thoughts you didn't realize until you've had that opportunity to release the pressures that have built up. It's a form of emotional brainstorming I guess. Just like brainstorming, not all the ideas you come up with are useable, but some are just what you've needed to get around a bend.

I wanted to comment about this gender comparison between men and women and who's needs seem to be what.

I think all people see the world first through a one way lens, mostly directed at themselves. It might be for other men, as it has sometimes been for myself, that needing to feel important, recognized, respected, admired etc., is verified on the day our mate has said she loves me. Mission accomplished.

In the early stages of "training" (that was a cute remark ozzie a man does not look beyond this personal accomplishment and might think he has taken care of his need and anyone else who has needs is responsible to see they are satisfied for themselves as he has done. His "trophy" (admiration from others) is locked away in the cabinet and now it only needs to be dusted on a regular basis.

No way do I think this is the ideal, just something to think about when we think about the failings and faults of others in our lives.

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius