Yes Butterflies, but things had been going so well and we had such a strong connection that I think we both thought it would be no problem. The fact that he didn't prepare me for meeting his partner wasn't really what caused the break; it was his condescending email comments when I was trying to explain why I was so upset. He displayed a complete lack of empathy, which was very surprising to me. It's really fine now, because I got a glimpse of who he really is as opposed to my idealized version, so I'm working now at moving on and letting go. Oh and Farmergirl, the discovery of his crossing the line with a client happened when my husband and I were 3 months into couples' therapy and it was going well and my husband had a decent rapport with him. Good couples' therapists aren't easy to come by, so I took the chance and stuck it out. The transgression happened 7 years ago and he went through a whole life change, so I stayed.