Along with the DID, we have an attachment disorder which is the result of the trauma (according to our T). There is an article somewhere on the internet which is very good that talks about DID as an attachment disorder. There was no one to bond to as a child. People hurt you, that is part of the truama. My protectors don't allow friendships, though i want them very badly. One protector says T is a person, and therefore, has the capability to turn and hurt us...but he is working to let some of us get a little closer to T.

Parts that come out whose job is to keeep us looking normal - but everythng is superficial.

I can make friends and have them, but my others keep everyone at a distance. And, what i find is it feels like work maintaining friendships once i do have them because i keep feeling like i am pretending or that i will do something wrong or they will see through the facade to what's really underneath -

Some inside would not care if our T went away. Maybe a few would say good. But other parts would be deeply saddened i suppose - and it would be traumatizing to them.
One protector comes out and takes all the pain, then hides it.
I don't have many friends. I don't think i really have any close friends except for my husband.
I isolate a lot, and certain protectors work to keep us isolated because that is the way it is supposed to be in their heads.