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Old Jul 19, 2012, 10:32 AM
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Those broad questions are stumpers sometimes, aren't they? It is good you are thinking about it now, I would just be more proactive about it and have a plan of some sort when you go in rather than wait for the questions.

The questions are just open-ended, "How are you?" greetings almost, not a request that you compress four weeks into one sentence of 10 words or fewer It's not "Name that Tune" http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Name_That_Tune where you have to get it all in there, in the correct order, in the first five or ten minutes of the session.

If those questions bother or stump you, think up your own? If you could ask yourself any question, what would it be? I do an exercise every now and then when I'm bored or depressed and in a grocery store, I ask myself, "if you could buy only one item in this store, what would you buy?" and then I go find it and buy it for myself :-)

Make a wild wish, tell it to your T when you walk in and then start exploring why you made that wish! It's your therapy. "I wish you would not ask me how I am when you get back from being away; I find it stressful" and see how she responds? I imagine my T saying, "Okay, I won't" and smiling and becoming silent again with her listening face on.

You could ask the questions on paper you have asked here and do the imagined response thing (as you have done with the "might bring up" scenario) and see if anything interesting shows up you want to talk to her about, tell her, explore with her.

Having read your interesting post and written this reply; if I were you I would not think about it at all anymore and go in there and see what she actually does say/how the session opens and answer on the spot with whatever pops into my head. If nothing "pops" I'd say that ("nothing is popping into my head; so much has happened over the last month and I'm not sure if I can give one definitive answer because I've been good, bad, okay, and the bottom of okay. . ." :-)
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