I'm with SAWE on this one as I had a T who was out of her element working on issues such as mine though we were really close. I stuck with her because of our connection. In the end (and this really became clear once I was working with a new T who had worked with other people with similar issues to mine), I learned that closeness and connection wasn't enough--in fact, it ended up hurting me bc i was so ready to work on my core issues and her not knowing how made things worse. She was stubborn and kept saying that she knew what she was doing. Yet, I found out 18 mos later that she sought out training during our work and she admitted that "it was too late for us."

I know that it's really hard, but I think that you should have an honest discussion with your T and ask him to self-reflect on whether he can truly help you with your core issues. I firmly believe that it is possible to find a T both with whom you can form a relationship (though this takes time and perhaps trial and error to find the right one) and who is skilled and experienced dealing with particular issues that you have. I know that this is difficult, but I genuinely wish that I'd taken this advice and explored the possibility of switching therapists when I started questioning whether she was the right one for me. It would have saved me from a lot of hurt and not delayed my healing journey by a couple of years (I also had to spend a good deal of my first year with my new T focusing on relationship w/ old T, whom I only stopped seeing because I moved). Good luck!