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Old Jul 19, 2012, 02:30 PM
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Thanks for all your responses. There is a lot for me to think about.

I consistently fail to find the courage to be open with T about things and I am sure if I could be more open then I would benefit more.

And maybe my lack of openness is obvious to T and I guess if T doesn't know exactly what is going on, then it must turn into a guessing game for him.

So I think the answer to my question may become more obvious if I was more honest with T - that's the hard bit though isn't it?

Soup

Soup - I am an advocate for being self-protective. Some therapists are genuinely crappy.. I had one of those. So you do have to "test the waters." I recommend saying something like: "I've been thinking that I am not as open with you as I could be. But because of what I came from, I'm not sure I even know how to really be open. I just feel such a need to be very guarded... just not sure how to trust." Then let him respond to that. His response will give you an idea of what his concepts of vulnerability and trust are. The concept is sure worth exploring, and you can do that without opening anything up within yourself.
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Thanks for this!
SoupDragon