Yes, take the car. Do not let him have it. It certainly is fair for you to ask to have something that is yours back. This should be in the divorce papers. Do not hesitate on things like this. Do not try to play the fairness game with him. He doesn't deserve it. He was not fair to you. And do not give him credit for the very few times he may have acted like he was being fair. I can't stand when guys do this. They try to ACT like the good guy. He should get used to the idea of people thinking he is a total loser for what he's done. He should not be let off the hook because he is a man, and supposedly men are 'different.' So, does that mean they don't know the difference between right and wrong? Everyone should be held accountable for their actions. You should be civil in meetings, but don't cut him any slack. You are a mama bear now. Mama bears don't play around. I really hope he has a job.