Hi Mindinpieces --

I want to be reassuring, but the fact is that anyone can come here to vent -- a cannibal, a child molester, a mass murderer. Still, I suspect that you are none of these things and just feeling emotionally raw.

Sometimes the only way to get past things in our lives is to go through them. Allow yourself to feel your emotions; it's kind of like to turning into the direction your car is heading if you skid on the ice. It doesn't make any kind of sense to turn into the skid, and everything in us wants to resist, yet it is the best strategy.

Sometime on this journey of life I learned that the way I can appreciate good times and joy is by being open to the darkness and pain as well. The Sufis call this being in the garden or being in the fire. Both types of feelings are part of what makes us human, and we are less human if we only want to experience one side of life.

I hope things get better for you.