Des, I am so sorry that all of this has happened. However, I would like you to think about that child's life and future. I know you feel you have limitted power. I know your spouse doesn't care. But this little baby was not asked to be born into all of this. Babies are a gift and he is getting a very sad picture of the world everyday. I don't care if he is just tiny, tiny people know things and it affects them. I don't know the answers, just that babies/children/ no one should have go through this stuff. Good luck