T really helped me understand how and why I felt certain things about myself, and why I would (over) react in certain ways. We touched on some of the sensitive things in my past and left others alone. It was really about identifying the things that were stopping me from believing that I had value and worth. Now I react a lot less to things and I'm more comfortable in my skin. I stopped therapy because I moved towns but would probably of continued for a little longer if I could have stayed with my therapist. At times I took breaks if we were about to open up things I wasn't ready to deal with.
Its really hard to find someone that you connect with, so I would try out a few different counsellors on some surface or easy problems then continue with the one you have the most repore with. To me it was really helpful to look at how the past had shaped how I see myself and understanding that was the key to changing the way I felt about myself.
I don't blame everything on my BP, I know that at the moment my sadness is situational and understandable - its a ****** situation to be in, but I can also tell when it is the BP talking or when its me overreacting to something cos of the way I think about myself.