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Originally Posted by SoupDragon
Just thought of another thing my T said - the more we start to trust T, the more difficult it may feel for us. When we don't trust at all, we don't give anything away and it all stays safely tucked up - so no risk there. When we start to trust we let things out and then the stakes become higher in the consequences of that trust being breached - so when it starts to feel more scary can be when we start to take those risks in trusting more. I think this may be connected therefore to vulnerability.
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This is connected to what I was trying to ask yesterday. Whether it is OK to talk about trust or not clearly depends on the T and on the kind of therapy they offer. But I've also been thinking that it might or might not be OK to talk about the kind of thing that requires trust - if that makes sense. I mean, if I want help with my elevator phobia I may not need to trust my T completely to the point where I talk about my CSA (these are fictitious examples since I haven't suffered CSA and don't have a problem with elevators), and the T probably would be a bit impatient if I were to start going into that kind of thing with her.
Should I just trust that it's OK to talk about anything, lower defences and be vulnerable to the point where I might show emotion? What if I say too much and it
isn't OK (or, God forbid, if I start crying)? I would really like to think that it would be OK, but I just don't know how to find out...
I don't mean to monopolise this thread - my situation isn't really relevant here, but the general questions might be interesting to more people than me.