I think you wrote a great letter--very articulate, and powerful. I think your T will change her mind after reading your letter.

One time when I had a major breakthrough and finally came to the point when I was able to admit a feeling my T seemed to have been encouraging me to feel, he then reacted like yours. He did not dwell in the "finally" aspect of the feeling and support me in what he had thought I should feel all along. I was left confused, and kind of feeling betrayed. I think back on it as a misstep by him and "not his finest moment", but I know he is still an excellent T and we are a good match. So I haven't let his screw-up influence our relationship. I just chalk it up to no one is perfect, he's human after all. If you can allow your T to make a mistake, I think you will get through this OK. And if your T can allow herself to change her mind after reading your letter, then you'll get over this bump in the road even faster.