I agree with some of the above points. But call me old fashioned because I can't make excuses for this kind of guy. We all get stressed, and I can see someone becoming distant with the coming of their first child. But spending time with their buddies and dealing with it healthily is one thing. Leaving one's wife - no, not even that - kicking her out of the house and leaving her with nothing, when she's close to giving birth to your child, is absolutely unforgivable. I agree with doing everything you can to protect yourself and your child.

But I can understand how something like this can really weaken a person. Divorcing at any point is stressful, but this situation takes that to a whole new level. This is why I think it's important to not just take care of yourself financially, but also emotionally. I'm glad you have your family (although your sister needs a "talking to") and if you have any friends I would also spend time with them. It really helps when you go through such heartache to have other close people. Plan for your financial future and find a way to go on and find joy in your new child and motherhood. Sometimes what seems like the worst situation can bring someone their happiest moments in the future. It's just hard to see the future like that.

I also have to wonder if he was always this way to some degree. It's often under stress that people's true colors show. To figure it out now this late in the game is tough, and it doesn't in any way make your deep feelings for him untrue. But it does leave you capable of protecting your child from him and protecting yourself emotionally in the future.

I know it's tough right now. Look after yourself, do what you have to do (like getting a lawyer and taking your best options), and take it one day at a time. Sometimes that's the only way to make it. Sending you good vibes.