I hate that whole "get a job." Gee, thanks captain obvious. I hate it when people think everyone should fit into neat little boxes. You know, not everyone fits into a box. Although the "obvious answer is ususally the right one" works in most scenarios, it always doesn't apply to human situations. People do the same thing to me all the time, so I understand how it is.

The thing I think that's important is to figure out what is best for you and your kids. Living with family is stressful. I have the stress of living with my mother-in-law. I love her to death (thank heavens for that,) but at the same time, I miss the alone time with my husband. At times, I just want space to myself that is not there now. Plus you know, all families butt heads. I personally think some families were meant to be villages. A house for me, one for you, and one for you, and we all take care of each other, but can still storm off if need be.

As for dating, just say you live with your family for health reasons, but don't be specific? LOL... But honestly, I think you probably just need to find someone who isn't judgemental. Hard to do maybe....

I think you do a fine job with your kids. I've thought that for a while reading your posts.