I'm the worst at breaking up... I let this 6 year on / off relationship go on and on. In the beginning he was so aloof and I wanted more, but then it turned into me wanting my space, and not be tied down. Now he's talking about growing old together (eeeeeks!!) We just gotta be strong women and draw your circle in the sand, this is what you're ok with, and that is what you're not ok with. I understand the all or nothing, be brave. But it's your decision, only you can do. Good luck