I think this is exaclty what you should say to him. I know how hard it can be to confront someone we've grown accustomed too. I've learned recently in my own relationship that confronting and not backing down is good. Saying, "Look, you can't just get your cake and eat it too and leave me with crumbs, Mister."

Either when you say that it will start some type of resolution and some type of change. And you have to be firm, which is hard. It's very hard for me to say how I feel and what I need. I always put me last. So, this is new for me too, but I'm finding that even if it starts with a fight it ends with a talk, and then you have to follow through on that talk and that's when things get better.

I agree with BlueInanna, we all have to be strong women.