My current T does a great job in this domain for me. She does share some things with me -- but only as they directly relate to my therapy. She has shared that she doesn't have children in the context of my worrying about getting close to the end of childbearing years and not having a partner. She was talking about having a fulfilling life without children and explained that she got married at 42 to someone 10 years older, so children were out, but that she has a great relationship (i.e., this is possible for me). She also disclosed that she worked through a similar core issue as I have in her own therapy 20 years ago. This really helped to know that she had this issue and she was able to work through it--gives me more hope for myself to do this and I know that she just gets it. In general, when she goes on vacation, she does say where she goes--I think she mostly offers this information, but it nips in the bud any curiosity that I might have. She never shares anything that makes me uncomfortable for knowing. When I asked her about self-disclosing she said that she only shares things that she has worked through herself and always for my healing and not to help herself feel better about whatever the issue is.