I'd probably do the coffee and talk, but I just like to get stuff like that over with. If you go take pictures, will you come home an then feel unsettled still because you didn't have a talk? For me I would just feel so anxious untill it was done.

It's good Moose that you are deciding to take a stand for what you want. If its long term commitment you are after then yes it might mean with someone else. But as long as you remain in this relationship there isn't room to meet that person. It could always go the other way and he could decide to commit, but either way you won't know till you are firm about what you want.

I'm glad you are looking out for your own needs. 7 years is too long to ignore your needs and put someone else's first! Good luck Moose, whatever you decide to do.