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Nammu · Jul 21, 2012, 12:16 AM

Have you thought about thinking about seeing the world from others point of view?? Your mom? She works, she is under a lot of pressure, an adult sick child lives with her, and she and her boyfriend get into a fight, and yell at each other which causes more stress, and then her daughter is angry and tense which makes mom feel even worse.

There are many of us with PTSD and even DID, but that does not give us the right to control the behavior of those around us. It is up to us to learn to deal with the world. You have a pretty good deal going. With no income you have a safe place to live, food to eat, people who love you, and friends. If you start trying to control their behavior and tell them they have to treat you like a victim instead of like you-a person. You will start losing the people you need to heal and get better. I once had a room-mate like that. She started doing that to her family. So they paid for her rent, 1-3rd of a house. She had divided the place into threes. The frig, was taped off, as was the bathroom, and kitchen. I lasted longer than anyone because I didn't do what she demanded. In the end, even I left, she attacked my daughter when I did not react as I was supposed to). Her poor parents moved her to a one- bedroom that was part of a facility for severely mentally ill people. She went into her own delusions, there was nobody there to tell her other wise. She ended up in a state hospital. In the beginning her only diagnosis was PTSD but she demanded every one treat her as poor little me. I can handle life. "life is hard, do ***** and moan but you have to learn to deal with it" That is what T's and Pdoc's are for. You can't expect life to stop happening around you. (((Towanda's))) idea is a great one getting ear plugs, thats being pro-active, taking charge of life. Using music, You need to stop thinking of what they are doing to you and start thinking about helping yourself. How can Hellion take care of Hellion! Go for a walk, get absorbed in a book and not hear them, learn meditation(it really does block out the unwanted) Go to your T and Pdoc and talk about this, how to deal with life while dealing with the trauma. I'm the last one who will ever say that it is easy. But please don't see yourself as a victim. You are not a victim--you are a surviver!