Lots of really, really good posts here.

Oasis, he's likely making a big deal over it because it makes him feel insecure. While it's natural for penetration alone to not do the proverbial trick, a LOT of men don't realize that. When "he" (so to speak) doesn't bring you to climax by what "should" (likely in his mind) be the "main event" (so to speak...I really do beat around the bush when I post, don't I? ), it makes him feel like he didn't do "his job" or that he otherwise is inadequate. It's not that you're making him unhappy in bed, it's that he feels he's making you unhappy.

It's not that he doesn't believe you either, though I suspect the faking orgasms likely hurt his sexual self esteem a little (not that I'm chastising you. I understand what you were trying to do ). It's just something he, I think, wants to do for you. It matters to him more than it sounds like it does to you.

He needs to understand what brings you pleasure, but he can only do that if you do. I would recommend talking to him about what you enjoy, what makes you climax. Try to incorporate some things from that talk into the bedroom, and see if things go better.

Lastly, let him know how this makes you feel. Sex should never be stressful, especially with someone you love. Try to relax, try to get HIM to relax (I'd wager he's just as stressed), and take things as they come.

I hope I was of help!