Hi all. I have written in the past about some serious issues w/ my therapist in terms of her rudeness, telling me what I can and can't talk about (she almost refused to let me talk about a dear friend w/ a terminal illness) etc. You can see my other posts related to her horrid behavior. There is too much to list here!

I had once written her an email about this, but it didn't do much good for long. She had gone back to trying to tell me my issues "could be talked about with a social worker," etc. How rude! Why not say "I can't stand you, please see someone else!" Anyway, I have reached the last straw.

She has always tended to have an irascible temperament, and a rather nasty side. Again, please see other posts for examples of this, if you would like filled in.

Recently, I have been ill. Very ill. So sick, in fact, that I would cough so hard I would throw up - blood! I had cancelled about 3-4 appointments because of this illness, and always days before my scheduled appointment. I spoke to her once on the phone, but she really didn't say much in terms of hoping I felt better, etc. I think this is horrid behavior for someone who is suppose to genuinely care for their clients! I get treated better by the guy who loads my groceries into my car!

I cancelled one more app't. I would never, ever want to make her sick. She called me today, *****y from the start. The first thing out of her mouth was a snide "This has been going on a long time," referring to my illness. No crap, I'm the one who has been ill, and I did NOT appreciate her tone. She then basically said that she was giving up my regular scheduled time since I've missed them, and that when I'm better I can call and she will fit me in. I think this is rude, but I understood. It's the way she did it.

I then said, like I did in my message, that in two weeks I'd be fine. I'd bet on it. She replied with a sharp tone "I'M NOT BETTING."

Wow, that was the last straw! I'm cancelling to protect her health, and I get crap for it? Oh no. No "I hope you feel better," no concern at all, just nastiness, unprofessional rudeness, and a complete lack of basic care and sensitivity.

I will not go back, not ever. I have put up with various rude behaviors from her for far too long.

But I DO have one question - I'd like to email her, briefly, and tell her that her behavior is unacceptable, and I won't tolerate it - or be returning - any more.

Some would say to hell with it, other would say "write it!"

What is everyone's opinion? I think it would be cathartic to tell this monster I have finally had enough (again, there is alot more in my previous posts I won't mention here). But I've had enough of her dismissive, almost abusive behavior. My feelings should not be hurt by my therapist on a routine basis. Time to RUN, and never look back.

Any suggestions on emailing? I think it is deserved.

Thanks!