This is so awful! It's terrible to hear stories like this. I'm so sorry you had to put up with this woman. I agree with others I would not meet with her face to face. You don't deserve any more abuse which is all you'd get with this so called therapist. I see a lot wrong withthe interactions you've been having, on her end obveously!
I would send her the e-mail just to be clear and let her know your position. I agree with saying the no further contact thing and also saying you think she's in the wrong profesion which she is! I remember when I discovered that I was in an abusive relationship with an unethical therapist it was so hurtful. I felt like contacting every one of her clients and giving them a big warning!
There's an organization, TELL Therapy Exploitation Link Line. I would contact them. You could get support from others who have been there (although unfortunately we see several cases just on this board alone of situations like this) and also get ideas about reporting.
If this woman is a licensed psychologist social worker, mental health counselor ETC then she can be reported to a board and held accountable. Unfortunately if she is an unlicensed therapist as mine was, there's little to be done at least in MA where I was at the time.
I hope this isn't your first ande only experience with therapy. When you're ready I hope you can find someone who is truly caring and helpful.