This. I have a HUGE HUGE problem with this. Even with people that I know wouldn't do this. I need to rewire the part of my brain that automatically goes in this mode anytime someone wants to do something with me. I have told T2 about this problem & he seemed to get it, so we'll see.

I have no expectation that anyone in my family will change. I know what they're up against. I'm a lot like them & this is hard stuff to change. None of them really want to change.