Rainbow~I am so excited for you. DBT is something I have been trying to get into for a few months now. I understand so well the struggles that you have. It is so hard to change the way we think and feel. It is also very painful to feel this way when others don't understand why we think and act the way we do. We don't know any other way, so its hard to change without intense intervention.
My therapist said that using DBT can be like "
telling a right handed person that they can no longer use their right hand. They will have to be left-handed from now on."
It is not natural for that person and its extremely hard to force the left hand to do what we depended on the right hand to do for so long. It is awkward and challenging, but it is doable. It takes LOTS of practice, though. This is what DBT requires. LOTS of hard work and practice.
I hope this works out for you. Kuddos for stepping out of your comfort zone and making this giant leap to healing and a healthier, happier life.