Scorpiois73 Thank you so much. That was kinda what I thought. So say something. Like I said I am very unsure of myself. Every thing I do is wrong, my H makes me out to be a wacko. I guess I am a scared individual who lives in hell daily and can't see the light at the end of the tunnel and the trouble right in my face. But I also know or think anyway my H likes it that way. Thank you again for responding back. It's good to know I'm not alone in how I feel things are going. I'm not real sure how marriage T is supposed to go. Change has to take place and who is not resistant to change. I hope things even out before long .